Richard Osman: ‘Dad’s Departure and My Food Obsession’

A Journey Through Work, Love, and Life

Born in Billericay in 1970, Richard Osman studied Politics and Sociology at Trinity College, Cambridge. He then embarked on a career in TV production, eventually becoming the creative director of Endemol UK. In 2009, he began presenting Pointless alongside Alexander Armstrong, and since 2017, he has been the host of Richard Osman’s House of Games, where he met his wife, actress Ingrid Oliver.

His first novel, The Thursday Murder Club, became an international bestseller in 2020 and was later adapted for television, with the show set to air this August. His sixth novel, The Impossible Fortune, is scheduled for release this September. Additionally, he co-hosts the weekly podcast The Rest is Entertainment with Marina Hyde. He has two adult children from a previous relationship and currently lives with Ingrid in West London.

In this reflection, he shares insights into the moments that shaped his views on work, love, family, money, and health.

Family Expectations and Personal Choices

Richard’s mother quickly realized that neither he nor his brother would follow the traditional path expected of them. While his brother gave up his job to join a band that eventually gained success (he is the bassist in Suede), Richard started as a TV researcher. Their mother had always hoped they would become doctors or lawyers, but it took her around thirty years to accept their choices. She finally came to terms with the idea that they were right to pursue their passions.

The Desire to Create

Fame never interested Richard. His goal was to create—whether through writing, producing TV, or entertaining others. He never wanted to be in front of the camera, even though he was proud of his brother’s stage presence. There was no envy, just a clear understanding that his path was different.

Anonymity and Identity

Standing at six foot seven, Richard has always been noticeable on the street. Losing anonymity wasn’t a big deal, as people were already staring at him for different reasons. He doesn’t have a plan B and would be content staying home watching snooker and playing with the cats. Writing is something he loves, but he also enjoys not writing. If all else fails, he won’t resort to releasing a grime album, although he says never say never.

Living with Nystagmus

Richard was born with nystagmus, a condition that makes it difficult to focus. He sees the world as if driving in dense fog, with blurred images and halos around lights. This has made him rely heavily on listening rather than sight. He once presented Have I Got News for You using Bruce Forsythe’s autocue, which was too large for him to read. People thought he was drunk, but it was simply his inability to focus.

Perception and Creativity

He doesn’t describe people in his books because he doesn’t see them clearly. Instead, he focuses on how people talk and their attitudes. He finds it challenging to understand descriptions of physical expressions, like a twitch of the lip, as he doesn’t perceive them in the same way.

Food Addiction and Understanding

Richard’s food addiction stemmed from a need to regain control, likely influenced by his father’s departure when he was young. While it’s a complex issue, he approaches it with empathy, recognizing that everyone struggles in their own way. He emphasizes the importance of self-love and understanding, as it allows one to love others without judgment.

Love and Connection

For Richard, love is about complete acceptance and protectiveness. It involves understanding a person’s journey, accepting every version of them, and finding comfort in shared emotions. He believes that true love enhances both individuals, making them better versions of themselves.

Dealing with Trauma

Trauma is an unavoidable part of life, but how one deals with it matters. Richard’s parents divorced in the late 1970s, and while the situation wasn’t discussed openly, he witnessed his mother’s grief. As an adult, he sought to understand his father’s actions, leading to a sense of closure and forgiveness.

Blended Family and Connection

Richard values his blended family, appreciating the opportunity to bring his children, Ingrid’s relatives, and both their mothers together. He finds joy in being the glue that holds the family together, a role he always wanted to fulfill.

The Role of Money

Richard appreciates the freedom that money brings, especially the ability to do good and help others. He respects the values instilled by his grandfather, who believed in hard work and fair pay. He plans to keep working until he’s 90, finding boredom in retirement.

Sharing Wealth and Giving Back

Money can bring happiness, but only if it’s shared. He believes in paying back those who supported him throughout his life, whether through education or healthcare. He sees it as a responsibility to pass on any good fortune he receives.

Upcoming Release

The Impossible Fortune will be published on September 25th, marking another chapter in Richard Osman’s evolving journey.